Dr. Lee Phillips
While researching Dr. Lee Phillips, I had to challenge myself and ask if I know myself as well as I think I do. What became abundantly clear, regardless of my own thoughts was that it is so extremely important for the existence of the services that Dr. Lee provides and when interviewing him, my mind was opened to so many things.
Do many who feel they might be in need take that stigmatic step to actually reach out to get that help on your own or as a couple? Can one let go of one’s pride to see the need and to receive the help?
I believe that there are so many people who want to discuss certain things sexually, but due to the sensitive nature placed on us by society, many disregards the need to talk about them.
With the confidential environment such as what therapists like Dr. Lee provides we can make the world more open-minded to sexual trials and tribulations though baby steps. Therapy takes time and there is never such a thing as a miracle solution.
The question that I ask myself and I would assume others do the same, is, “Is the key to sexual health to open yourself and or your relationship up for scrutiny or input from a third party?” For many herein lies the challenge. Are you ready to get real and embrace the feedback from your therapist? Perhaps, that is exactly what is needed to be a bit vulnerable and not feel the need to live up to the “demands” we and society put on ourselves.
However, a safe and nonjudgmental sex-positive and empathetic environment will for sure be the best place one would find the tools to express yourself and your dreams, limits, worries etc. The fact that Dr. Phillips is open to patients of any gender, non-monogamous, swingers, polyamorous or kink relationships shows us that these types of therapists can provide a higher level of help to clients compared to the less open-minded therapists out there.
I find it rather refreshing when I continue to interview many therapists for my podcast, that if you need therapy of any kind you do not want to go through the process of finding someone that will not judge before you even get started. Speaking from personal experience I might add.
With extensive experiences and the important view that sexual health is critical for one’s overall health and well-being , a place for individuals and couples to give voice to the concerns that might exist or to lift and de-dramatize sexual taboos is just what the doctor ordered. To learn from each other within a safe place why you/your partner want a certain thing might unleash pleasurable energies on levels delightfully unexpected.
For many it takes time to build that trust with a new partner and to be able to openly express oneself and it might in some relationships be the voice of that person form the outside that provide just that needed safe place to effectively but also patiently find the way to the solutions needed for each situation.
As people we judge ourselves due to the sometimes-overwhelming demands from society to perform sexually and be what our partner needs. In that judgement of ourselves we tend to forget our own needs and wants. When finding our own voices, we can find a whole new level of excitement and comfort to experience new sexual adventures. To remove the weight and seriousness of it all can generate a situation more open to express your desires.
One piece of advice I live by, never forget that sex is fun and do not underestimate a good laugh during a sexual escapade as it sure takes the seriousness away.
In closing, let´s focus on the fun and delicious pleasure that is finding our sexualities, but also letting go of the fear of asking for help if it is needed.
Coralyn Jewel & Lady Jaye