Swinger Terminology

A lot of fo times when people refer to “Swingers” that is the word they use.  They also do not clearly understand some of the terminology used by “Swingers”. So my entry today focuses on some of the “words” we use to describe certain things.  Let’s begin with the word: Swinger” Many who are involved in this “World” actually call it the “Lifestyle”.  Why is that you ask? 

Lifestyle: 

Well, the term defines more than just swinging. It implies sexual open-mindedness in general. In fact, many involved in “the lifestyle” refer to themselves as ” Sex-Positive”. 

Bi-curious:

This can be a man comfortable or open to the idea of being with another man or a woman open to the idea of being with another woman. Not necessarily saying they are “Gay” but saying that they do not have an issue with the possibility of exploring a person interested in engaging in sexual activities with a person of the same sex.

Same-room swinging:

When I do choose to be intimate with another couple, my choice is “Same-Room”. I, personally feel that being involved in the”Lifestyle” is about experiencing this with your partner so being in the same room entices the experience to watch my partner as well as be intimate with my partner simultaneously. 

Closed-door swinging:

When a couple meets another couple in “The Lifestyle” it is important to ask what they are into and not into.  It is imperative to have open communication and make sure everyone is on the same page in regards to what they are interested in and looking to experience. So When another couple says to you, ” Are you ok with “Close-Door swinging” they are confirming you are ok with the practice of swapping partners and having sex separately in different rooms.

Exhibitionists:

I would have to share with you that this is where I, Coralyn Jewel identify most as an Exhibitionist.  A couple that enjoys having sex in public (for the pleasure of Voyeurs) but doesn’t necessarily swing. Or a single male or female that enjoys being watched. 

Full-swap:

Many people not involved in the “Lifestyle” assume that EVERY SWINGER is swapping full sex with another couple. This is not the case at all.  The practice of exchanging partners and having full sex is called “Full-Swap” but there are other ways as we are reviewing now that people can be considered involved in the “Lifestyle” as “swingers’ but not necessarily having full sex with someone else. 

Soft-swap:

Swapping partners but limiting activity to kissing, oral sex, and/ or heavy petting.  There is no penetration when a soft-swap is involved. Again, communication is key here to make sure you do not enter a situation with another couple expecting full-swap when you only intend to soft-swap. 

Girl-on-Girl (GG):

Some couples married or just involved as partners have no interest in being watched or watching. They do not want to “Full-Swap” or “Soft’Swap” instead the men desire to watch their female halves play with each other and sometimes the male will just engage with his partner. When two women engage sexually and the male partners just watch and possibly touch their own partner.

Polyamory:

When someone says they are in a “polyamory relationship” Also, referred to as an “open relationship”, a polyamorous relationship is one in which the couple agrees that monogamy is not right for them.  As such, they are open to a third person with each other’s consent. This is often confused with swinging, but it is not the same. A swinging couple may be polyamorous or vice versa, but not always.

Troilism:

Many know this word mostly referred to as ” Threesome”.  Sex involving three persons. This could be MFM (Male, Female, Male) or FMF (Female, Male, Female).

Unicorns:

As I have discussed in one of our previous episodes, a Bisexual woman, single and available to join couples for a threesome is called a unicorn because of their rarity, but as we are growing in our world of more acceptance, more women are entering this ” Lifestyle” as a ” Unicron” still hard to find but they do exist and it is becoming more acceptable to be a ” Unicorn”. 

Voyeurism:

Again, I have touched on this in previous episodes. Just because someone attends a ” Swinger event” or identifies as a “Swinger” or a part of ” The Lifestyle” does not mean they engage in any sexual activity with anyone else besides their partner.  Being a Voyeur is the practice of watching people engaging in sexual activity. with permission to be invited to watch. 

Join me next week as we continue to explore the various aspects of the Adult industry”. 

Coralyn Jewel is a perfect example of a woman living by her favorite quote. "Patience will prosper"

A retired adult porn star, high-class escort, retired competitive athlete, porn director, swinger club owner, fitness trainer, wedding planner, talent manager, voice-over actress, coach, and speaker. Coralyn Jewel is the epitome of a strong powerful female entrepreneur.

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