What do I mean when I say you must walk in their shoes?

I had the honor and privilege to have Sharon Mitchell, with a career in the Adult industry spanning from 1975 to 2012 and appearing in over 400 films as well as becoming a  member of the AVN Awards Hall of Fame[8] and XRCO Hall of Fame and founded the Adult Industry Medical Health Care Foundation (AIM), which tested talent in the industry. 

I also had the honor of her trusting in me to share or battle with drug addiction more in depth and how she turned her negative experience with addiction into a positive career helping others as an educator for youth in sexuality & drug treatment.

I often share in my podcast episodes that although I do not hold a degree as a therapist, psychologist or and I do not have a PHD in sexology, it is my belief that until you have walked in someone’s shoes in a specific situation, I do not believe you can council others and guide them to a different path.

Now, again this is just my belief.  I have never had to deal with drug addiction or the horrible memory of being sexually abused, so how can I help someone who is battling this if I have not experienced it on my own. 

On the other hand, I have worked in the Adult Industry as a performer, and I have worked in a legal brothel.  I have experience in the Swinger Lifestyle as a participant and also a community owner.  I have witnessed marriages ends, break ups and I have witnessed couples meeting in the lifestyle and getting married.

Every single one of us has our own unique story.  We each have a situation someone can learn from and we must also learn by lending a listening ear.  It takes a huge amount of courage and strength for Sharon to not only know that her story is all over various media outlets but to revisit the horrific night of her attack and what ultimately lead her to overcome her drug addiction,

SO always remember, until you have walked in someone else’s shoes and experienced the challenge they are facing you cannot make any type of judgement or assumptions.  You can offer your love and support and guidance to the best of your ability but to make any sort of judgement is unfair and unacceptable.

Till next time,

Coralyn Jewel

Coralyn Jewel is a perfect example of a woman living by her favorite quote. "Patience will prosper"

A retired adult porn star, high-class escort, retired competitive athlete, porn director, swinger club owner, fitness trainer, wedding planner, talent manager, voice-over actress, coach, and speaker. Coralyn Jewel is the epitome of a strong powerful female entrepreneur.

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