What is a Fem-Dom and a Femdom submissive?

Many people are familiar with hearing about a Dom.  The assumption is a Dom is a male and a female is the slave or submissive.  However, this is not always the case.  This blog will give you a better understanding of what a FemDom is and if you as a male are in-fact intrigued by what it means to be a  submissive. 

A FemDom submissive actually feels more pleasure knowing that they have met the satisfaction of someone else, therefore, bringing more pleasure to them than actually receiving physical pleasure brought unto themselves.

As a FemDom submissive it does not always mean your “act of kindness” is of a sexual nature.   Cleaning the home can be one way of pleasing your FemDom.  It is your desire to please and not just in your actions but in a complete mindset that will impact you overall.  Your ultimate goal as a submissive is to please your superior and empower her.

A FemDom is a female in a partnership or relationship that takes the dominant role.  This can be physical or psychological.   Some submissive’s desire the physical pain from their FemDom and incorporate the use of whips or restraints.   Other ways a submissive pleases their FemDom is through humiliation and being ordered to do certain things for or to their FemDom.  This could be a pedicure, cooking dinner, cleaning, or can go as far as a cuckold situation where their FemDom is sexually pleased by another and the submissive is humiliated to just watch and not participate.

A FemDom is also referred to as Mistress, Goddess, Dominatrix, Madame, Domme, and Pro-Domme.  Some actions in this type of relationship between FemDom and submissive can include as mentioned above, pain or humiliation such as;  ballbusting, forced orgasms, face sitting, and even pegging.  These are all different variations of humiliation and will involve a more detailed blog and a variety of guests in the BDSM field to explain in more depth what these actions entail.

Now, on the other end as mentioned above, being submissive to your Mistress does not necessarily need to involve any pain at all.   Sometimes in a session with your partner just providing oral pleasure to the female half without receiving oral pleasure as the male submissive is considered a FemDom session.  Or even watching your female counterpart please herself or be pleased by another without being “allowed” to engage as well is a FemDom session. 

It is important if you and your partner decide to engage in this type of “play” or “lifestyle” that just like in the Swinger Lifestyle community, you must communicate with each other and follow safety guidelines and have a “safe word”.  This is a word that lets either of you know the session has gone too far.   If restraints or ball gags are in use and it is difficult to use the “safe word” you must also have a “safe signal with hand or fingers”.

Sex is healthy and roleplay is healthy. Learning about different ways to spice up things in the bedroom with your partner is a good thing.  It is important to open your mind to different fantasies, fetishes, and lifestyles.  Only you will know what feels right and what you enjoy but you will never know if you do not try.

Thanks for listening and learning

With Love,

Coralyn

Coralyn Jewel is a perfect example of a woman living by her favorite quote. "Patience will prosper"

A retired adult porn star, high-class escort, retired competitive athlete, porn director, swinger club owner, fitness trainer, wedding planner, talent manager, voice-over actress, coach, and speaker. Coralyn Jewel is the epitome of a strong powerful female entrepreneur.

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